5 things kids "really" want from their parents

This one is a given, yet so underrated! After all, everyone loves their children right? Yet, children need to know that they are loved no matter what. This means loving them for who they are, not just for what they do or how well they behave. Unconditional love gives kids a sense of security and self-worth. It helps them feel safe to make mistakes, try new things, and be themselves.

What to do

Say “I love you” often, even after a tough day

Give hugs, smiles, and gentle touches.

Accept your child’s unique personality, interests, and quirks. Each child is unique

Avoid comparing them to others

When children feel truly accepted, they are more confident and resilient.

No, kids do not (always) want that latest gadget from the market that all their friends have. Kids crave time with their parents. It’s not just about being in the same room—it’s about sharing moments, talking, playing, and listening.

What to do

Set aside time each day to do something together, even if it’s just 10 minutes. It could include painting, reading, or even chatting

Put away phones and distractions during this time.

Let your child choose the activity sometimes—read a book, play a game, or go for a walk.

Listen to their stories, worries, and dreams without rushing or judging. Provide them a safe space.

Sure, children need to be called out when they are wrong. Yet, children also want to know that their efforts are noticed and appreciated as well. As parents, your job is to strike a balance. Encouragement helps them try new things, overcome challenges, and believe in themselves. Praise should focus on their actions and progress, not just the end result.

What to do

Notice and mention when your child tries hard, even if they don’t succeed.

Praise specific actions: “I’m proud that you shared your cupcake today,” or “You worked really hard on that test.”

Encourage them to keep going when things are tough.

Avoid only praising achievements—celebrate kindness, effort, and honesty too.

Positive words from parents help build a child’s self-esteem and motivation.

While it is important to stay close to your kids, it is important to let go as well. Kids want to feel trusted and capable. Giving them chances to make choices and do things on their own helps them learn responsibility and confidence. It also shows that you believe in them. It is okay if they make mistakes as well (that is the only way they will learn)

What to do

Let your child make age-appropriate choices, like picking their clothes or choosing a snack/movie

Allow them to try new tasks, even if it takes longer or gets messy.

Support their interests, even if they’re different from your own.

Be there to guide and help, but don’t do everything for them.

When children are given space to grow, they develop important life skills and a sense of independence.

Children want their parents to understand how they feel and what they’re going through. When parents listen and show empathy, kids feel valued and supported. This helps them learn to handle their own emotions and build strong relationships. Parents must learn to REALLY listen to what their kids want to say, and not brush apart their feelings.

What to do

Listen carefully when your child talks about their feelings.

Acknowledge their emotions: “I see you’re upset,” or “It’s okay to feel sad.”

Avoid dismissing or minimizing their feelings.

Share your own feelings in a simple way, so they learn it’s normal to have ups and downs.

Empathy from parents teaches children to trust, communicate, and care for others.